I have learned over the years that doing what most people do gets me very average results. Most stay within their comfort zone, most people accept doing a job that doesn’t make them very happy and most people prefer the weekend to the week.
I offered a friend an opportunity to take a look at a business opportunity that would eventually get him out of his job, his first reaction was no thanks I actually love my job, I said would you go to work if you weren’t getting paid, he said yes I would I love my job. I said do you prefer the week or the weekend, his reaction at this point was very interesting, he had been responding to all my questions with a smile but this question slowly removed the smile from his face, I could tell he wanted to say he preferred the week but realized he would be lying to himself.
I wasn’t trying to catch him out or make him feel bad about his life, he does have a good job and he seems quite happy, my interest was more to do with why he wouldn’t even take a look at an opportunity that for all he knows might make his life even better.
There are many reasons why most people’s first reaction when being offered to take a look at something different is no. One of the biggest reasons is time, people generally think that they don’t have enough time, they value the small amount of time that they think they have, so they want to spend that time doing stuff that they want to do, that sounds fair. But they don’t mind giving up most of their time to do a job from 9 to 5 for 5 to 6 days a week for the best part of their life until they retire.
Why do most people think that doing that is normal? They think that because that is what most people do and if most people do something then most people think that it’s normal.
Doing what most people don’t isn’t easy at first, you will need to toughen up as you will receive a lot of criticism warnings and ” good advice” from most people. But what I have learned over the years is that most people don’t know what the f##k they are talking about.
Their advice is based on hearsay fear and the common consensus of what most people think. I’m not saying don’t listen to what most people say, I’m saying listen but make your own mind up as it’s your mind and your life. I actually now hear what most people say and think if that’s what they think what is the alternative, what are the few doing.
There is really only one risk in life and that’s the risk of getting to the end of your life with regret.
Brave people don’t live forever, but cautious people don’t live at all. Richard Branson
Why do we accept the unacceptable? Because we are programmed to do so at a very young age, we are trained to conform, we aspire to find a job get a house pay our taxes to live life in the gaps and eventually die.
How do we break away?
First, you have to stop accepting the unacceptable, working for 40 hours a week for 40 years to end up on a pension that will most likely be 40% of what you were earning isn’t a life, it’s an existence. So do you want to exist or live?
You need to want to change your circumstances, this will take “sacrifice” I have written that with inverted commas because spending your spare time learning to do something that will change your life shouldn’t really be considered a sacrifice, it’s actually time well spent and should be fun.
Think about the lifestyle you want to have and that should be your goal. Ultimately this is about you creating a life that you actually want, not what you think you should want, so be truthful and visualize yourself having this lifestyle. Visualization is a very important part of this because if you can’t imagine it in your own mind how will it materialize in real life.
And finally, be patient, you have made the decision to change your life and you will get there but it won’t happen overnight. The good news is you are now on your journey to being unlike most people. But brace yourself for the negative backlash from all the know-it-all’s and the “we have your best interests at heart”
Power is in tearing human minds to pieces and putting them together again in new shapes of your own choosing